Workshop Number One

How to have a Great Marriage
The Art and Science of Marital Happiness

Almost everybody remembers the “moment” they fell in love. It was wonderful; surely it would last forever. But all too often, as the years drift slowly by, that magical feeling gives way to doubt, confusion and finally despair, anger and betrayal.

How is it that marriage, which is universally approached with such optimism, leads so frequently to conflict and disillusionment? Nearly 55% of all first marriages end in separation or divorce and subsequent remarriages are even more likely to end (60%).

For 20 years I worked in a private practice at a major hospital in Toronto with over 100 physicians who referred patients to me with very troubled marriages; 93% of these couples were able to restore their marriages, usually in 6 weeks or less.

The question of course is, how did they do that? An even better question is, how can you do that? “How to Have a Great Marriage” answers that question. It is the compilation of my 40 years as a marriage therapist and details how more than 93% of these couples were able to save their marriages.

By the way, this workshop is also an excellent experience for those who already have a good marriage but would like to understand and actualize the four pillars upon which to build a great marriage.

In “How to Have a Great Marriage” you will discover and learn:

1. The four insights that science tells us will produce a deeply satisfying and stable marriage

2. How to develop a practical, life-long and enduring basis for a happy and fulfilling marriage.

3. How to get your spouse to like you better than you like you

4. How to break the blame-game forever

5. How to get your spouse to listen to you

6. How to recover the lost affection in your marriage

7. How to replace resentment and frustration with satisfaction and joy

8. How to turn “nagging and distancing” with “understanding and respect”

9. The one and only law to marital happiness

Workshop Number Two

The Beginning of the End or the End of the Beginning:
Knowing When Things Should End and How to End Them

In “The Beginning of the End or the End of the Beginning” you will learn how to resolve or end those difficult “rock and a hard place” situations that afflict even the best and brightest among us.

Whether you want to end a relationship, seek new employment, or let a difficult employee go, how can you know with certainty that it is time to make a change? What are the specific steps to end things in the best possible way and lastly what is the best way to “get out of Dodge” with the least amount of damage?

In “The Beginning of the End or the End of the Beginning” you will also learn:

1. The five steps to end the right thing in the right way at the right time

2. How to end being disrespected and to gain respect from your peers

3. How to leverage your hopelessness effectively to create the changes you need to make.

4. Hope as opposed to wishful thinking; how to know when which is what

5. Four strategies to end things

6. How to overcome inertia and resistance

7. How to end or handle unreasonable requests in the workplace

8. How to end being politically exploited in the workplace

9. Self selection: the scripted break up/break through speech

10. How to have a facilitative conversation to end things well

11. How to deal with a chronic complainer

Workshop Number Three

The Key to Self Mastery
How to Master Your Personal and Professional Life Circumstances

Human nature is instinctual; human organizations are instinctual and leaders are instinctual. In other words, leaders tend to use the management style that is most natural for their personality type.

This means of course, that even CEOs have blind spots; things they don’t see in themselves that others can easily see in them. This in turn causes all kinds of problems. But if you told said leader that her management style was causing complexity, she would be surprised, if not appalled. Others surely are to blame, but not them.

So what’s going on? Two very natural human tendencies; leaders on a daily basis tend to overdo their strengths and avoid areas of discomfort; that’s what.

“The Key to Self Mastery” has been written to address this pervasive, vexing and dichotomous leadership issue.

We will begin by discussing the five predictable but largely unconscious stages human beings go through when they successfully make a significant personal change. We will then analyze the nine psychological steps scientific research suggests will best help us make permanent change in our lives and then detail the 27 strategies you can use to break a bad habit, either personal or organizational, or begin a better one.

We will then examine more specifically what we can do to address our personal blind spots and expand our leadership repertoire.

In “The Key to Self Mastery” you will also learn:

1. How to be a more confident leader

2. Self-Mastery: What it is, why we need it and how do we get it?

3. How to turn your weaknesses into strengths without changing who you are

4. Nineteen bonus self mastery strategies

5. How to overcome procrastination

6. How to turn negative emotions into positive emotions